They don’t realize that in a bar or nightclub the reality is that you can meet as MANY women as you want.

Unlike other situations, women usually stick around a club for several hours, so you’re sure to see a woman again.

Meeting a lot of women is important - if it doesn’t work out with one, you’ll have several other options. PLUS, you’ll subconsciously come across as more of a challenge because you’ll know that she isn’t your only choice.

So here’s how to do it:

When you see a girl (or group of girls) that you’d like to meet, go up to them and get them laughing or engage them in some simple conversation (I’ll tell you some great opening lines in a second).

Then tell them you have to get back to your friends, and maybe you’ll see them later.

Move on to the next girl or group and do EXACTLY the same thing.

This does a couple of important things all at once…

One of these things is that it sets you apart from most other guys in her mind.

Why? Because most guys will start a conversation and then “cling” on to the woman, staying FAR too long and boring her with routine conversation. On top of that, most guys wait for the WOMAN to end the conversation or walk to a different part of the bar. When YOU are the one to end the conversation first, it communicates that you’re an independent guy who doesn’t “need” to talk to her. This is like STEROIDS for attraction.

It also builds “social proof.” When women see that you’re talking to other women in the bar, they know that you’re an in-demand kind of guy… and if they aren’t able to win you over, some other woman will. Women are highly competitive, and this drives them NUTS - which, of course, is great for attraction.

It also creates familiarity - the next time you see them they’ll feel you are old buddies.

GREAT OPENING LINES

A powerful way to start these conversations is to point out something funny that’s happening in the club. Find a guy who’s wearing a funny outfit, then walk up to a group of girls and say, “Hey girls, do you think I’d look better if I was wearing THAT guy’s shirt?”

Another great approach is to purposefully bump into a girl, then look her right in the eyes and say, “Watch it punk,” with a totally serious face. The girl will start to get all sorts of funny looks on her face - she won’t know if you’re trying to start a fight with her (which of course makes no sense whatsoever) or what - then right when you feel she’s about to call you an asshole… crack a smile and bump her with your butt. Tell her “I’m just kidding, you dork”… she’ll start cracking up.. and you’ll be IN.

This is completely different than anything they’ve ever seen in a club. It’s totally ballsy, and it totally works.

Or, as an alternative, after you bump her with your butt simply walk away. What’s great about this is it creates a sense of “mystery” in her mind - she’ll wonder where you went, and when she sees you again she’ll be very interested to talk to you.

Another fun thing to do is to find a group of girls sitting down at a table, sit right down next to them and say, “Hey girls, sorry I’m late, traffic was CRAZY getting over her. You didn’t order drinks without me did you? What kind of drink do I have coming?

THE THUMB WAR

But one of the most childish and ridiculously enjoyable ways to approach a woman is with a thumb war.

Walk up to a woman, don’t say a word, and put out your hand like you’re doing to shake hands. But when she gives you her hand, look at it funny, turn it around in thumb war position, and start the game. Try taunting her while you’re playing. “You suck. You are so going to lose… I’m going to dominate you right now in front of all your friends…”

After you annihilate her, crack a sly smile and then walk away. She’ll be so hooked that don’t be surprised if she approaches YOU later in the evening to find out more about who you are.

SAY SOMETHING FLIRTY EVERY TIME

The key to all this is to say something flirty to her every time you see her.

Tell her she looks like she’s up to something. “Are you guys planning something over here… you look suspicious… what kind of trouble are you guys planning on getting into…”

Accuse her of following you and tell her to stop.

Touch her glass with yours and say “Cheers…”

Every time you leave you build up the sense of anticipation and challenge. And women love it.

POSITION YOURSELF

There’s always a place at the bar where everyone goes up to get a drink… wher everyone gathers and tries to get the bartender’s attention. If you can grab a bar stool that’s right next to that place, it can be FANTASTIC… because all night long you’ll have women bumping into you, etc. You’ll have tons of “ready made” opportunities to talk to women.

Or grab a spot next to a walkway. When girls walk by, you’ll have a change to stick out your glass and clink, challenge her to a thumb war, or bust on her.

FISHING VS. HUNTING

It helps here to think of this as “fishing” more than “hunting.

Regular guys go hunting for women. Naturals go fishing.

Hunting means you have a motive. Women pick up on this and will see you as being too hungry, desperate, needy, and “trying to hard.”

If she can tell that you CARE whether she is into you or not, she will INSTANTLY disqualify you… even if you are doing everything else right. If you put too much importance into the interaction, you’ll also have a tendency to think too much and screw it up.

On the other hand, if you are relaxed and just out to have a good time and make some new friends, women will be naturally drawn to your laid-back attitude.

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I think a pretty big mistake online daters tend to make is not knowing what it is they really want. Of course that isn’t specific to online dating, but it can cause a lot of problems, hurt feelings and waste other’s time. It sounds insignificant, but you’d be surprised how many people prefer to dive into the deep end of the online dating pool when they aren’t even sure if they want a swimming partner. Do us all a favor and take a minute to really consider what you’re searching for in a relationship. The clearer the picture, the easier it is to achieve the goal.

Another big mistake is to drag out an email relationship for months (or even years) before you meet. It isn’t uncommon to feel a connection with someone who lives pretty far away, and a couple can get into the habit of revealing intimate details of their lives with a virtual stranger. (I call anyone I haven’t met in real life a virtual stranger). The problem with sharing so much of yourself in this manner can ultimately make you feel pretty vulnerable. You haven’t seen this person yet, you can’t read their expressions or observe their behavior, but because you like them so much, because you feel they really understand you, you wind up projecting a fantasy image of who you want or imagine this person to be, rather than who they really are.

Big mistake number three: You’ve found someone you think you like, and you’ve made a ‘real-life’ date almost immediately, without getting to know the person first. You’re thinking “Well, I know how to talk to people in real life situations. I’m more comfortable doing it this way because that’s the way I’ve always done it, and therefore this will be piece of cake.” What you forgot to do was to find out if you had enough in common with your potential love interest to get you through a half hour coffee date. Can you imagine? “Oh, so you collect snails. How fascinating… and you say you make little costumes for them? Okaaay… Will you just look at the time???“ Just don’t forget to pick up some extra strength aspirin on your way home.

If you’re online dating because you really want to meet someone special, then set a goal to do just that, and make sure whoever you’re communicating with is right there with you, philosophy-wise. If he or she lives nearby, and a few weeks of contact have given you a good butterfly feeling in your gut, then make a date for dinner. Emailing for a few weeks or so should give you enough of an idea that you like this person enough to know that you’ll be entertained for at least a few hours, and that you’d probably want to be friends even if there is no physical chemistry. I think this is key.

If he or she lives too far away for a casual dinner, then decide if you actually do eventually want to jump on a plane to visit, or pick them up at the airport. You’ll probably need a bit more chemistry happening to make the effort to attempt a long distance relationship, but I think you just know when that’s working. And it does work.

Let’s say you’re in a party and you managed to hit on this hot brunette you just met. You exchanged numbers and talk a lot into it. Now that you really like her, but you have doubt if she likes you. If you are one of those guys that have doubts if a girl likes you, this is the article for you. 

Firstly, I need you to think on the bright side. Men seek pleasure. So do women. So, do not think too much and let’s get on it.

Here are the 3 simple things that you should note:

1. Basically, if a girl is willing to stick with you for some time (unless her friend pulls her away from you), she is already giving signal that she is interested in what you can offer. Girls are sensitive and this is the period of the time where they are the most sensitive. Look into her eyes if you can.

2. In a party, if she stand aside from her friend or simply just standing there without doing much talking, that might be a chance that she is signalling you to approach her. Remember, if she doesn’t stand in her pack, it means she wants something that will interest her because she’s already bored with her pack of friends that night.

3. Lastly, you must notice and be more sensitive when your conversations with her focus more on you. She could be asking for more details about you (like your last name, age etc.) and she might even keep on using your name. Unless you got a strange name like R2D2, you can expect her to use your name in the conversation.

However, with the inventions of instant messaging and text messaging, does love letter still works? Many guys doubt if love letter still works, but at least many girls believe they do work.

Love letter means romantic

Yes, basically, love letter shows how romantic you are. Unless you can show the level of romantic-ness in you through Skype or your Motorola cell phone, love letter is the best bet. 

Love letter also convey messages better. Psychologycally, love letter puts the impression of love and gentleness on the reader’s mind thus making sure the messages are conveyed with better accuracy. 

It’s cheap

You don’t have to buy yourself an expensive caligraphy pen nor a super, old parchment-like paper. You can simply write with a basic normal pen (even #2 pencils work for kids) on a piece of blank paper. It’s as simple as that.

You don’t need to buy yourself a computer or cell phone to give the message to your love one. 

The High-school feeling

Giving a love letter to someone in college or after high school will let the receiver think back to the high school times. The idea is to let the receiver feel like he or she is in high school again with lots of free love. So, your rate of success may just increase!

So, does it works?

Definitely. It will works if you truly love somone and you know he or she closely. Of course, love letters normally don’t work well when you are picking up girls or dudes in bars and clubs.

Most guys cannot or don’t dare to ask for the girls’ phone numbers because they are shy, afraid of rejection or don’t know what to do. Ultimately, I think the main problem is because guys sometimes can tend to think too much. Don’t get me wrong, because psychologically, such guys tend to be more romantic and sincere.

Of course, you shouldn’t rush things by going directly in front of the girl’s face and ask for her number. Always keep in mind that if she let her handbag down, or grab a drink or smoke, or focusing on something (books, magazines and computers), it means she has at least 15 minutes with you. 

She has friends with her?

One technique is to lure her away from her pack. It’s something difficult to do because you basically have to make really good excuses to lure her out. 

Otherwise, just stick to the plan by saying “hi” to her friends and herself. At then, spark off a conversation but try to focus your conversation on the girl you planning to hit on. 

If she’s alone

This is easy. Even easier if you are in bar. Walk towards her (don’t check out her body…yet) and say “hi” to her. Tell her your name and start talking to her about the bar, the drink or any recent events. If she tells you her name, means she’s interested. Otherwise, don’t give up and continue your conversations because females took about an hour to form an impression.

If she tells you her name, keep using her name. For example, “How’re you doing, Alexa?” or “That cocktail looks great. Don’t you think so Alexa?”. They love it when their names are being called. After a brief 15 minutes talk, it’s time to back off.

Yes, it’s time to back off and no, I’m not crazy. You need to get her number remember? The reason I asked you back off because it’s time to get her number, before you continue doing some stupid mistakes. Here are some tips on how to get her number without feeling awkward:

- Take 2 of your business cards (if you have business cards) and gave one to her. Use another one to jot down her number. Tell her that you enjoy talking to her and would love to see her again.

- One more way is to just ask casually. Just say something like “Wow. You’re great friend. Hey, can I have your number?”

- Take out your cellphone and pretend to text someone but try to avoid her looking at your cellphone’s screen. Then, pretend that you remembered something and then asked “I just remembered something. I got to go my friend’s home for Superbowl. Before I go, can I keep your number just in case I feel like talking to someone again?”.